LIFE : " We Need To Talk" As Hard To Say As It Is To Hear

“We need to talk”

Hearing these four simple words from your relationship partner never feels good. Our heart shrinks, your palms gets sweaty because it’s never about we need to talk about what a great relationship we have or our best friend are going to spend their rest of life together. It’s never that, it’s always we need to talk about the beginning of the end.

Whether our relationship is awful, good or great we don’t like ending. It’s a human nature we don’t like to lose things and especially we don’t like to lose things that are important to us. And make no mistakes relationships are the single most important thing to us in our life. It’s the source of our all best memories, it’s the source of our all worst memories. When we think back on our life when we are 80 or 90 year old and we look back over the course of our lifetime, we are not going to think I wish I earned a better phone, I wish I spent more time on internet etc. It’s not going to be any of those kind of things, it’s going to be I wish I spent more time with the people I love. Because our relationships they build us, they define us, they sustain us and they can break us too. And we all know relationship breakup can be tough, loneliness, depression, increase drug use. We lose a relationship, part of who we are as a person goes with it.

Breakups happen and relationships fail and when they fail it hurts because before that we were a happy, vibrant person, very much in love, things are going perfectly. We breakup and we are alone, we are sad, we are disappointed, things hurts, we are heart broken, we are confused.

No one likes being in this situation but life thankfully happens on continue, no matter it’s a good thing or a bad thing. But it goes other way too, sometimes our relationship is really isn’t perfect, so some breakups are worthy of celebrations. So when our relationship doesn’t help us to become a better person ending it does. Which is important to realize.

Relationships are important, time is short and mistakes are costly. Relationships should be the best part of your life. Hopefully we will find one that will build us and sustain us, hopefully we have that. But if we don’t, we have to ask our self what is one hour, one day, one week, one month, one life time of our happiness worth. Because great relationship seldom fail, bad one do as they should and when they do, when those relationship fails they end everything. Relationships are broken that doesn’t mean you have to be broken forever. Something to take advantage of not to conceal. This what can exactly happen to our relationship, our relationship lead by some cracks but those cracks, those imperfections, those are the sign of strength and beauty because breakup don’t have to leave you broken because you are stronger then you know.

As Ralph Waldo Emerson said “Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail”.